9 Ways To Tend To Your Inner-Self

April 6, 2018

Spring is here and I’m super excited because I feel a lot more vibrant and lively after going through random spouts of depression during the fall and winter months. You can read all about how I deal with seasonal depression here.

I have never considered myself to be a fashionista but I do love to look nice. Don’t get me wrong, I will sometimes look like “who did it and why” but overall I enjoy taking care of the way I look.

It’s never to get attention, although, I’ve learned that I really enjoy receiving compliments (words are my thing). I enjoy taking care of my outter appearance because it affects the way I feel. When I look good, I feel good. When I look a hot mess, I’m usually feeling a hot mess or things are very chaotic for me.

Hot mess = a person or thing that is spectacularly unsuccessful or disordered, especially one that is a source of peculiar fascination.

I wore this very simple, yet elegant, vintage dress to church a few Sundays ago. It’s very comfortable and I felt a sense of renewal and freshness while wearing it. Maybe, I felt this way because it’s part of the green family, which has become one of my favorite colors to wear. Maybe, it’s because I’m truly living out my word for the year. I’ll soon make a post about my one little word for 2018.

After researching what the color green means, I found:

“Green is soothing, relaxing, and youthful. Green is a color that helps alleviate anxiety, depression, and nervousness. Green also brings with it a sense of hope, health, adventure, and renewal, as well as self-control, compassion, and harmony.”

When dealing with the ups, downs, and uncertainties of life, it’s easy to feel let down, defeated, and in a dark place all alone. That’s why it’s important to lean on the wisdom and guidance of Jesus and take extra care of your inner-self. Everyone cares for their inner-self differently. Here are a few ways I suggest:

  1. Find a quiet place and pray

  2. Engage in activities you enjoy

  3. Give yourself compliments

  4. Do something nice for yourself

  5. Write in your journal

  6. Set boundaries for yourself and others

  7. STOP!!! Stop thinking self defeating thoughts and speaking harsh words about yourself

  8. Soak in a nice warm tub of water and add my absolute favorite epsom salt:

    Dr. Teal’s Soothe & Sleep Epsom Salt

  9. Give yourself grace!

Taking care of your inner-self requires you to step outside of your current reality and allow yourself to sail into a place that leaves you joyful, rejuvenated, encouraged, hopeful, and level-headed once you step out of the boat.

Speaking of stepping, I decided to step into my Jessica Simpson heels that I found at Goodwill last year. You can find a similar pair here. I’m playing around with mixing my pearls with different earrings, so I paired this beautiful necklace, that my cousin’s wife gave to me at my grandmother’s funeral, with a gold pair of earrings from Africa that one of my beautiful friends from Africa blessed me with.

I purchased this beauty from a newly established online boutique called Virtuously Styled. If you love affordable vintage fashion, then you should definitely check out the site. New items are generally posted on Monday nights at 10 PM Eastern Standard Time.

I would love to hear how certain colors lift your mood. Comment below to let me know what’s some of your favorite colors to wear.

In His love and mind,






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  • Victoria April 7, 2018 at 12:14 PM

    WELL DONE!!!

    • tpzeigler April 7, 2018 at 3:52 PM


  • Lakisha Pinkney April 6, 2018 at 2:15 PM

    I love it Tiffany!!! I love to wear Magenta colors alot!!! Keep it up you gave some Awasome tips!!!

    • tpzeigler April 6, 2018 at 6:36 PM

      Thanks Lakisha! Magenta is another beautiful color to wear.

  • Alicia April 6, 2018 at 1:52 PM

    I love wearing red although I don’t own very many red items. I always feel vibrant and sexy in red!

    • tpzeigler April 6, 2018 at 6:32 PM

      Ohhh Alicia…red is my favorite color and another one of my favorite colors to wear. I agree with you. I feel very sexy and joyful in it ?.

  • Shayla April 6, 2018 at 12:05 PM

    Great tips! Thanks for sharing.

    • tpzeigler April 6, 2018 at 6:30 PM

      Thanks Shayla!